Like, why don’t people understand that when someone chooses to express themselves and explain that there are struggles in their lives, it doesn’t automatically mean they think that they struggle more than any other group or individual alive?
Understanding intersectionality is important. Yes, a white person with mental illness does face different stuggles than a POC with the same mental illness but that doesn’t mean that their struggles are not worth mentioning. Yes, a POC with mental illness is more likely to be shot or murdered by police than a white person. It is a disturbing fact and no one is saying that it isn’t true. No one is silencing you by raising their voice and sharing their experiences.
Intersectionality matters because able bodied people with mental illness are not going to experience the same obstacles and oppression as someone who is bound to a wheelchair but that doesn’t make either more important. The same goes for people who come from money and the poor. The same goes for women and men, elderly and young, etc. Intersectionality matters but it’s main use shouldn’t be to derail posts that are someone sharing their own experience. It’s important to bring understanding to those who aren’t used to thinking about how it must feel to be a woman or a POC or fill in the blank. White people can’t help that they were born white just as much as I had no say in the fact that I was born black.
Just as a side note, as a POC without mental illness with a white mother and two white uncles with mental illness, I can gurantee you they each faces struggles that I couldn’t imagine. I, as an able bodied POC without mental illness, face completely different struggles that my mother and her brothers could never imagine. Things are not so, no pun intended, black and white.
Thanks for writing this. I’m glad to see someone address this. <3
Hands up if you agree with this.
in the words of my sister, it’s not a competition.
It’s sad that people would think that Anna is so ‘plain’ and ‘boring’ and ‘annoying’…. because isn’t she just like us?
Feels like she’s second best, but never ever stops encouraging and supporting the people she loves. She hasn’t been out much, gets a little overexcited about the things she enjoys, she loves chocolate, she’s self-conscious as shown through her actions and gestures, she’s lonely… But she’s so optimistic that people tend to forget all that.
Anna’s life hasn’t been cake either… she may have grown up a princess, but being lonely and basically ignored and shut out by your own family is painful, no matter who you are and what your status is. Can you blame her for being so happy to meet people and to want a different life?
The reasons and circumstances may have been different… but Elsa wasn’t the only one who was trapped. Having that much faith in her sister and supporting her, believing in her and insisting and wanting to be with her and help her, that’s not being annoying, that’s called being part of a family.
In the age of the rail-thin models, we feel that a girl with some meat on her bones is just as beautiful. Let’s explore this idea a bit.
THIS! People need to learn the difference between being fat and being curvy, and I’m happy this post does! Amen to this ^
This post makes me so happy!! Know the difference.
This is so true, I’m happy someone pointed this out.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN
Bless this post!!
ok…. I’m gonna be the asshole that says how poisonous this is. yes curvy women are hot, but so are chubby women, and skinny women. saying that the body type that is not preferred by society and the media is better or more attractive than the one that is, or to the other extreme saying that fatter women are not as attractive as curvy women, is not going to make our society better, because you’re still telling women how to look.
for example, last year I saw an old ad from the 50s that was telling women to gain weight for the summer, you know swim suit season, rather than lose weight, and I told my mother and I was like “isn’t it great how they thought curvier bodies were better” or something like that, and my mother looks at me and she says “well, they’re still telling women how to look.” and I was just like….. damn! no one body type is better than another. some women can’t control their body type, some of them are curvy, some are chubby, some are skinny, some are muscular or stalky or whatever it doesn’t matter, we should celebrate all of them.
No Lea, I’m fucking happy that you pointed out how poisonous this is! The number of people who are reblogging with “this this” and “Bless this” saddens me. Women’s bodies shouldn’t be something that people police like they do. Neither should men’s. Yes being healthy is good. But being healthy and being skinny/the societally accepted standard of beauty are hardly mutually inclusive things.
Language matters, and yes it is unfortunate that lately “curvy” has been appropriated by magazines and such to mean “heavy,” but at the same time by praising a post like this, think about what you’re really saying.
you’re exactly right, our society should promote being healthy, and being healthy doesn’t always equal being skinny or curvy, there are many factors that go into what equals being healthy for different people.
and just as a side note, if you are ever going to change your body weight, make sure you are doing it for you, to be healthy either physically or mentally, don’t do it for someone else or because you compared yourself to that really attractive person at work or school or wherever. the sexiest thing is confidence guys.
you guys, it finally happened. the transformation has been completed. attending art school and getting my hair chopped short has turned me into a lesbian. specifically a lesbian hipster with a penchant for hard liquor and parties.
and drugs, don’t forget the drugs.
shhh it seems she forgot about those
And of course it’s also made you completely and totally democrat.